There are many reasons for resisting change. One, that comes to mind, is the fact that change requires us to admit that what we’ve been doing, so far, has been wrong. To confront this reality, sucks. It doesn’t help that we live in a world so quick to point out being wrong; people love pointing out others’ mistakes. In response, some of us have become experts at protecting ourselves: denying, blaming and avoiding responsibility. These methods aren’t always shown externally, however. A lot of the time, they are dialogues within ourselves.
Once changing becomes an option, we realize, to make that jump would mean to face our past mistakes. This isn’t easy, especially if it’s been going on for years. It may mean admitting to ourselves that we hurt some people along the way. It may mean admitting that we may have wasted some precious time. This can be very tough to face. So tough, it can send us back to a place of comfort, taking the option of change off the table.
Not until we can admit to ourselves we have been wrong, can we begin to change. Not until we can learn to be easy on ourselves, can we begin to change. Not until we can learn to forgive ourselves, can we begin to change. Not until we can take our protective, egotistical walls down, can we begin to change.